It's Been Awhile

Man.....

The month of July was super busy ad super crazy. I've once again neglected my blog. I was doing so well with update about the baby and weight loss and then boom...no updates in over a month.

Things are going great. Everything is well with the baby. Amy is doing great. I give her a lot of credit as she is almost 25 weeks and has yet to beat the shit out of me. She not only keeps me in order but keeps the house in order as well, all while working one of the crappiest shifts. At times I may not say or do all the right things but I truly fall more in love her everyday.

And then to touch on the weight thing. I'm not going to make any excuses but just say that I haven't been doing all that I should be or where I was at about 2 months ago.

All in all things are going very well. I'm trying to find more time to take a break and jump on here to let everyone know whats going on. I still get emails from all of my past readers asking what's going on where ya been. So once again I apologize.

Things are going to move pretty quick as we are only a little more than 3 months away from welcoming baby Shelby into the world I can't wait.

Speaking of waiting we;re also waiting the addition of another niece into the family as my Brother & Sister-In-Law are anxiously waiting for baby Marnie to arrive @ any moment....

Our family is growing, There's a Baby on the way

Wow. Now that the news has been broken to friends and family, I can now tell the world on my blog. A post a while back I had this to say

1. Become a husband (done)

2. Become a father (Amy and I are working on this...lol) (baby on the way)

3. Get down to half my weight (in process) (down 46 pounds to date)

Yes Amy is now pregnant and we're expecting a little one to our family come November. I can't put into words how excited I feel.

This is huge to me. I've dreamed for a long time on becoming a father. To me it was the only thing I really knew. Growing up in a family that was a strong as mine, and witnessing just how much in love my father was with my Mom for 36+ years till the day he passed on.

I asked my Dad one night if he was mad/angry at God for being diagnosed with cancer. He looked at me as serious as he almost always was and said I'm not mad at all. I thank him for the time that he gave me a wife that loves me and two wonderful boys that I've never had to worry about.

I knew right then what life meant to me, and what I really wanted in life and that's a family.

Life is going very well for me right now, I'm enjoying my job, my wife, losing the weight and working out, my friends, my family. I'm just in a really good place right now.

I want to thank everyone for the love and support. Amy and I, are very excited and for me November can you please come any sooner.

Love (Early Childhood & Present)

My whole life I have never been skinny. Always obese, even when I was young. I can't wait til the day where the doctor tells me that I'm not obese anymore just overweight.

I don't think I have ever wanted this more now than I ever have in my life before. When I was younger I put on a show for everyone, but deep down I think the only one that really knew my struggles was my mother.

I was the happy kid, never showed that my weight was an issue. Of course I got picked on as a kid. You would have thought I would have done something about it. I honestly had a really good childhood except for the fact that I was obese.

I had many friends, was active in sports mostly baseball.

The only thing that I always said I was missing as I got older and was interested in girls, was a girl.

I had crushes, I had what I thought was loves, I had dreams. But when it came to girls, I just wasn't the guy they were looking for.

You know the classic line, "I just like you as a friend"

Then after High School & into my twenties where I was hanging at the bars, I dabbled in all of that but never committed myself.

I tired the online dating thing but never was really interested or they would never pan out. Mostly because I would date secretly and not even let my family & friends know. Then when it came that time for ultimate commitment I would break it off.

Why? I was scarred. I have no other explanation.

Then came Amy into my life. She was the first girl that I really wanted to have my friends and family meet. Something was very different about her. I had always though I had been in love before, but I honestly don't think there is such thing as love until you find the right one. Then and only then do you truly experience love.

I used to always blame my weight for not having that special someone in my life. I used to beat girls up about it too (not literally...lol). Can't blame them. I wasn't for them, I was meant for my Wife.

I guess the reason for this long post.....

For the very first time in my life, I have a true meaning to lose this weight. Not only for myself but for her. She choose me, we choose each other. It wasn't about looks or about weight.

I love her so much that I'm not only doing this for myself but for her. This past month whenever I have doubted myself, all I had to do was think about her or look at a picture and get myself back on track. I've not slipped up nor have I cheated.

She's my true soul-mate, she is my motivation, she is why this time around......

I WILL NOT FAIL

Wedding Vendors We Went With

I'm doing this post to give you all a run down of Amy & My wedding and also give some PR to all the Vendors that we've selected to use. I'll go through all the vendors and locations and post links as well. If you have any questions just comment and I'll answer. When the wedding is over I'll do another post to let you know my review on all the Vendors.


Limos: Long story, but we went with two different limo company's. One to pick up the girls and one to pick up the guys the day of the wedding. Then after the ceremony, one will take all of us to the hall.

We went with both Limo World out of Hazel Park to pick up the guys
And Lavadas Limos out of Warren to pick the girls up and then take us all to the hall.

Flowers: Being that we were on a budget for the whole wedding we went with Thrifty Flowers and although we haven't seen the finished product, I feel very confident in going with them. We went to them with a plan and they were able to make it work.

Tuxes: President Tuxedo was the vendor of choice. Being that I'm a bigger guy this is my biggest fear about the whole wedding. I just want to look good in my tux. My last experience with a Tuxedo place did not go so well. (different Vendor) But I have been fitted before at President so I'm feeling good about the process.

Wedding Dress: Amy went with David's Bridal for her dress for both her and the brides maids. I can't wait to see how beautiful she will look in her dress. I feel like a kid on Xmas trying to find details, but I have been a good boy and can't wait till She's Mrs. Amy Perreca.

Cake: Sweetheart Bakery is the vendor of choice. We actually went and tasted a lot of samples before we decided on them. Unfortunately they don't have a website but you can read a lot of very promising reviews about them. They are very reasonable in price and very yummy.

Videography: I looked and looked and looked. On both quality and price and came to a decision on Tri-Foot Productions. I remembered them from a friend of mines brothers wedding and remember seeing the finished product. Tri-Foot is very reasonable in price compared to the competitors and what you get with what you pay for. I'm so looking forward to our finished product.

Photographer: The photographer is a friend of the family and also did our engagement photos. Sara's Photography. We have done a lot of photos with her from family photos, engagement photos, party photos, etc. She does very good work.

Ceremony: White House wedding Chapel by Lavadas. Amy and I were thinking of getting married in a church but Amy wanted to see this place before making a decision. In the beginning I was like why do you want to go see a place we'll both fall in love with only to be disappointed because it won't accommodate us. Well we went there anyway and instantly fell in love with the place. It's absolutely beautiful and after meeting with them they informed us that the site was wrong at the time about how many guests it could accommodate. We made a deposit right on the spot. We just recently went to a wedding there of a friend of Amy's family and are so excited for out day. Very elegant and very quick. Just what we like.

Hall: Eastpointe Manor We decided on this place for size alone. We both hate going to weddings and having to fight to go from table to table. The layout of this place is awesome. The space between tables and not having everyone be elbow to elbow. They've just recently remodeled with a new dace floor, carpet, and what not and need to update their site to reflect this. Their menu is awesome. We've sampled the food which was awesome and all the extras for the price per plate on a Friday night is awesome. I'll just say that it's awesome...lol

Rings: I bought Amy's engagement ring from a Jeweler that is a friend of the family. Chinn's Jewelery. We also bought our wedding bands from them as well. Very pleased with their service as they're very helpful every time we make a visit.

DJ: Mike Staff Productions. We went with them as we were giving a gift of a deposit for their services. When picking out our DJ, we went with an old High School buddy of mine and we're both looking forward to showing Stella how she got her grove back.

Invitations: After numerous samples that Amy had to get, we finally decided to go with David's Bridal they were very reasonable in pricing and I think they look good. Simple but good with our wedding theme to go along.


So once again if anyone has any questions please comment or email me. I'll be happy to answer.

I'm not at my wits' end, The Solution is in ME

A couple of nights ago I had a very real dream. This dream woke me looking at a sleeping fiance next to me wondering why I have this sense of I don't care.

Here let me explain the dream.....

I was at a funeral home and all of my family and her family were there. I myself was there. Only no one was talking to me and I was trying to get the attention of my fiance. She was ignoring me and I couldn't figure out why. I never once went up to the coffin. I really couldn't make out what the people were saying.

It was when I was closer to my fiance I realized that the conversations everyone was having with her, were about me and how sorry they were. The wedding was beautiful and they can't imagine her being a widow and we didn't even get to start our married life together.

It was then I realized, I was at my own funeral.

About two years ago I was on a mission to lose weight. I had succeed. I had lost over 100 pounds and was on my way. It wasn't easy I had a lot if struggles. At this time though I have to admit I put most of the weight back on.

I had dealt with my father passing and had giving up. But I beat that excuse like it was dating Rhianna...lol I know bad joke. It's true. I had used the excuse of mt fathers passing that it was ok for me to go back to my old habits.

I have a lot to live for. I have only a few simple request to fulfill in my lifetime and that's to be a Husband & a Father.

I've decided to back to what had worked for me. Going back to the lifestyle that I was happy with. I can't express how much better I felt about myself and where I was going when I was losing the weight.

The different reactions I got from people. The encouragement I had gotten. I have to admit, I miss all of that.

This dream, had a very important impact on me. So much so that it's time to do something about my weight again. I really think this dream put it in a different perspective for me. Not only do I have to start caring for myself but for my future wife as well.

SO wit the aforementioned statements, I'm back on my mission. My mission to get healthy. My mission to be there for my future wife & kids. My mission to STAY ALIVE.